About 3 years ago, I did a TEDx talk called Becoming the Navigator of Your Own Life. It talked to the life changing insights I had personally healing from alcohol dependency, co-dependency, pre-diabetes, and hashimotos.
Becoming the navigator of your own life. Does that feel like something you are doing for yourself?
So often we don’t feel like we are the ones in control. We feel disconnected between how we act, how we treat ourselves and others. It’s not, deep down, how we know we want to choosing. Yet often, it doesn’t feel like we have a choice. Or we do like I used to do, lay blame on others for how we feel.
I have shared so many times with my clients over the years that of course we always have a choice. Always. But when I was lost in the darkness of my disconnection with myself, I didn’t feel like I had a choice.
I just didn’t have the awareness that I did.
And that’s what we’re often working with.
Bronnie Ware in her book The Top Regrets of the Dying said that the number 1 regret of the dying is “I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself. Not the life others expected of me.”
That’s the truth of what we face if we don’t increase our awareness of the fundamental truth that we always have a choice.
And if we can be brave, more curious, and more willing, guess what we will see?
That we indeed can become the navigators of our own life. Be the ones in control of the coordinates.
The beautiful thing is, this never ends. Once we start on the path to expansion, we begin to see it’s infinite.
And as we travel along, this expansion takes us to to even greater depths… if we’re willing to remain open, curious, and conscious.
If I was asked to do this talk again, I would probably say exactly the same thing. But it wouldn’t be the same because I’ve grown, I’ve expanded.
And my understanding of becoming the navigator of my own life – and helping others to do the same – can never retract back into what it was.
Yes, change is hard. Choosing differently is hard. Alignment with your true self is hard.
But none of this comes even close to how hard it would be to face the regret of not living your life true to yourself.
“I am not what has happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” Carl Jung.